Use the Good China

 

 

If you’re like me, you have a cupboard full of “good” china and crystal. You probably save it for special occasions—a dinner party or a holiday. But have you ever asked yourself why you are saving this china and crystal? Is it to pass along to your children?  After all, they probably acquired their version of “good” china and glassware when they set up a household. Or they really don’t care about stuff like that. And most likely, their taste is a lot different from yours.

So, why not use that china that takes up space in your cupboard? Why not enjoy it now while you can? After all, we don’t pack up our treasures to take with us to the next life like the ancient Egyptians did. And your kids just might sell your treasured objects along with all the other stuff from your house in the estate sale they have after you pass on.

Recently, I decided that I was worthy of the “good” china. I resolved to use it every day. And I am enjoying eating my morning toast off the Franciscanware Desert Rose patterned china and drinking my iced tea from the crystal stemware.

As the saying goes, “you only live once.” So go ahead and enjoy it!

Get the prized china out of the cupboard and eat your ham and cheese sandwich from it. You’ll be surprised at how much better it tastes!

 

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Happy Valentines Day

 

Valentine’s Day—a day devoted to purchasing flowers, candy and jewelry and maybe something a little naughty for your significant other. Many folks feel it’s overrated as a holiday. It’s too commercialized, and benefits only the florists and candy makers, and of course, Hallmark and American Greetings.

I disagree. To me Valentine’s Day is a day set aside to celebrate love and all that means in our lives. It’s really not about cards, candy and flowers, although there’s nothing wrong with any of that! To me Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to stop and think about all of the people we love. It’s the perfect opportunity to tell others that we love them, appreciate them, and that they make our lives better.

Does that require flowers, candy or trinkets? Not really. It does require extending good wishes for a happy day to the special people in our lives.

All of our holidays are over commercialized, in my opinion. So using that as a reason to shun Valentine’s Day seems quite lame.

Think of how much better our lives would be if we celebrated Valentine’s Day every month; if we took the time to appreciate, love and cherish others.

Valentine heart

Happy Valentine’s Day!

 

Picture credit: www.2littlehooligans.com

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Memories

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fleeting snippets of events, memories, have flashed through my mind of late. Most of these memories make me smile, or remind me of the love I have for the people who are important in my life.

I wonder about the role memory plays in constructing who and what we are. Various members of a family experience the same event differently. When asked to recall an event, they may have widely dissimilar versions to relate.

One memory that has played in my mind of late was many years ago when I was in grade school.  I was walking to school or church with my brother. It had snowed (we lived in Buffalo, New York and it was winter), and there were soft, light flurries falling around us. The sunlight glimmered off the snow, catching the ice crystals, making them shine like diamonds. My brother wanted to pretend that we were walking through a diamond mine. I still can recall how magical this mundane walk seemed at the time.

When we were kids, my Dad would take all eight of us to the zoo (and other locations) for the day during his summer vacation.  My Mom would pack a picnic lunch and off we’d go with just Dad—leaving poor (or so I thought) Mom home alone! I always felt a little sorry for my Mon until I became an adult and realized how precious those few “days off” must have been to her.

My Dad especially liked to watch the ducks at the zoo. He would try to get us to sit on the concrete bench that was built around the duck pond for what seemed like forever. It probably was to rest his chronically aching back. We, of course, were anxious to go, go, go!  Eventually, the older kids would take some of the younger ones off to see the rest of the zoo while Dad took a breather.

I remember another field trip to Niagara Falls, a short ride from Buffalo. We had a VW bus (remember those?)  Dad, my sister, the three little kids in the family, and I were on this trip. I don’t recall if any of the older kids were along—I was already in high school when we took this excursion.

The rain came down in sheets, making walking around the “Falls” and eating a picnic lunch a little dicey, to use one of Dad’s words. We ended up having our picnic in the fogged-up car, which sounds a like more fun than it was. I had to pass out sandwiches and drinks from the front seat all the way to the back of the VW bus. I felt like a contortionist trying to accomplish that task.

These memories are a part of the history I share with my family. There are many more, of course.

And, as time goes on, they seem to become even more precious.

 

 

 

 

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A Special Place

Solivita Blvd

Every morning I take my faithful canine companion, Sparkle, for a walk. We have route that we both enjoy. Sparkle likes it because it is a treasure –trove of (apparently) fascinating smells.

I enjoy it because it is beautiful and serene.

The route is a very popular path along Solivita Blvd which follows the course of linear stream. There is plenty of shade in the summer and shelter from the chilly breezes in the winter. I love starting my day out with this leisurely walk with Sparkle. It sets a happy tone for the rest of the day.

When I’ve felt anxious or troubled, I’ve sought its peace and calm. To me, it’s the perfect place to meditate. Even though we take this same route every day at least once, and most often, twice a day, I never tire of it. The ripples on the surface of the water remind me that life has an ebb and flow to it.  The trees, flowers and birds that are attracted this stream provide an ever changing scene.

It is a piece of paradise practically in my backyard.

 

 

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Hair

 

 

Hair! We fuss with it, wash it, brush it, comb it, oil it, gel it, curl it, straighten it, color it, cut it, complain about it, and even lose it.

My mother had thick, black, luxurious hair.

When she was a little girl, her sisters (who were much older) cut it into a bob and placed huge, fussy bows in it.

In later photos, she had long hair that waved and curled. She combed the front of it into a beautiful roll (which I’m sure she pinned into place), and let it fall in natural waves and curls to her shoulders. In other photos, she wears her hair in a lovely upsweep.

In my favorite picture of my mother, her glorious hair falls to her shoulders with the front artfully arranged on top. She is wearing a silky blouse and her lips are ruby red. She is simply stunning.

Years later, she cut her hair into a bob and began to wear hats.

One of my earliest memories of my Mom’s hair was when I was around 5 or 6 years old. I was getting ready to go to school—probably Kindergarten. Mom was braiding my hair, which was dark like hers, and wavy, too. She was admonishing me, “Stay still, Kathy.” Then she reached into her beautiful coil of ebony hair and removed bobby pins to secure my flyaway wisps into the braids. For a long time after that, I thought that bobby pins appeared magically in her hair.

She loved gray hair, and ironically, never had any. I often say that she would have loved my hair which now has steel-gray streaks.

Her life was cut short by cancer.  Sadly, when she died, she had lost her hair as a result of chemotherapy and radiation.

But when I think of my Mom, I remember her thick, fabulous hair.

 

 

 

 

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Christmas Joy?

Christmas tree 2013

Christmas is upon us—again. I’m trying, God knows, to feel the Christmas spirit, but it is eluding me.

I want desperately to celebrate and enjoy the holiday season and all of its trappings: glittery ornaments, happy songs, gifts, Christmas trees, decorated houses. (Notice I left cookies off this list—I have no trouble enjoying them!)

I’ve heard all of the advice—you need new Christmas traditions, you need to focus on the positive, do for others, (which I’ve done), and you need to let go of the memories that hold you back.

Too bad it isn’t that easy.

The harsh reality is that Christmas will never be the same for me now that my husband is gone.

And dreaming up new traditions seems to be daunting right now.

Strangely, this feeling come upon me full force after what was supposed to be the start of a “new tradition.” (Isn’t that phrase an oxymoron?)

I attended a spectacular Christmas show at a local church the other night. A show that is famous in Orlando for the singing and the extravagance of the production.

It was all that—200 massed voices, all on key, singing favorite carols while perching in the branches of two gigantic Christmas trees. Meanwhile, an actor portrayed a harried director who doesn’t get the real meaning of Christmas—only to discover it before the end of the show. There was a recreation of the Biblical Creation story, complete with life sized elephant and giraffe puppets. Children danced, sang, and were incredibly sweet.

Yes, all the elements were there…

But I came home feeling even emptier.

Now I’m dragging myself through the season, trying to find something to cling to in order to make this a Christmas to celebrate.

So, I’m heading to snowy, cold Buffalo hoping to find the meaning of Christmas in the arms of my family.

 

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Snowstorm !

Buffalo Snowstorm

Buffalo Snowstorm

 

Readers of this blog know by now that I am a native of Buffalo, New York.

Yes, the Buffalo that made headlines last week for a monster snowstorm that buried parts of the region in up to 7 feet of snow in a day.  Not fluffy, oh-how-pretty snow, rather wet, heavy snow that is hard to walk through and exhausting to shovel. The snowstorm which is being called “Knife” by the Weather Service also included embedded thunderstorms—adding to the already anxiety producing event.

One of my sisters still lives in the house we grew up in. She sent a picture of the street right before she was liberated from her snow-bound house.  It was impossible to discern a street or steps leading down from the porch. All that could be seen were piles of white, featureless snow.

Now try to imagine what it was like to be literally snowed into your house.  You can’t open the door because there is a snowdrift that makes it impossible to push the door open. Even if you did open the door, your egress would be hindered by the heaping mounds of snow. There would be no reliable visual clue to help orient you to the front steps leading out of the house, or to the street.

If you tried to walk, the snow could easily reach your hips, making walking almost impossible.

Most of us could handle this for a day or maybe two—but imagine living like this for 6 days.

You are actually imprisoned by snow, knowing that someone from outside would have to come and shovel you out of the house—or you would have to wait until the snow compacts and you might be able to open your front door.

For my sister, this story has a happy ending. She was finally freed after 6 days by a combination of front loaders that came down the street and plowed it out, neighbors who worked together to shovel out the entrances to their houses and a moderation of the weather.

Thirteen people died during this storm and buildings collapsed.

Yes, Buffalo does get a lot of snow—but this storm was monumental and unforgettable. It was not the “Oh goody—I have no school today” kind of storm.

It was a weather event that changed lives.

 

 

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War Is Declared

Hello dear readers,

It’s been a while since I put a story on this blog–so I thought I’d give you a treat. This is one of the stories I plan to include in my next book, a collection of short stories.

Enjoy!

Kathy Joyce Glascott

 

  War Is Declared

It was Friday night, the first night of her new job waitressing at Murphy’s Bar and Grille, and Sandy was nervous.

Entering the bar, she quickly joined the staff sitting around a table in the back dining room.  Tom, the bartender and manager, introduced her to everyone.

“Sandy’s going to be helping out on weekends as a waitress,” he said, nodding toward her. “So, this is the setup. You and Peggy work the dining room at your assigned tables. Peggy’s going to give you the fifty-cent tour, and show you how it’s done. Right, Peggy?”

Peggy looked Sandy up and down. “If you say so. It ain’t exactly rocket science. You take orders and bring food, and make sure you get the money.”

Ignoring his ace waitress’ cavalier attitude Tom continued, “I’ll show you how to order at the bar. Okay?”

Sandy nodded, wiping her sweaty palms on her pant leg.

“Don’t worry; it doesn’t get too busy until around six. And the rush ends by eight-thirty,” Tom said.

Peggy smiled smugly. “C’mon, green horn. Let’s get started.”

The restaurant soon filled up, and Sandy found herself rushing from bar to kitchen to dining room and back again. She thought that she had the routine down, but every time she went to pick up an order, Peggy beat her to the platters of food, insisting they were for one of her tables. Soon Sandy’s customers were complaining that they were waiting too long to be served. She apologized over and over again and finally resorted to offering free desserts and extra refills on the drinks to quiet their complaints of being slighted.

Meanwhile, Peggy sailed around the room like a queen visiting her subjects, flirting with the men, planting a baby pink lip-sticky kiss on the older men’s bald heads.

Tom called from the bar, “Sandy, here’s your order for number five.”

When she started to reach for the drink, Tom leaned forward and narrowing his eyes, said, “You’re embarrassing us, girl. All I hear are complaints. Maybe this job is too hard for the likes of you.”

Sandy’s shoulders slumped. The pace was so hectic; she didn’t have a moment to catch her breath.

“And how many free desserts have you served? You’re paying for them, you know.”

Suddenly Peggy charged up and began to load the beers and soft drinks onto her tray.

“O-h-h-h, no, you don’t,” Sandy said firmly. “This isn’t your order.”

“Try and stop me,” Peggy answered, flipping her straw-like bleached blond hair.

Sandy elbowed Peggy out of the way, quickly picked up her order, and delivered it to the waiting couple. The wife, a bulky woman who wore knit pants and a sweatshirt with Buffalo Sabers emblazoned on it, scowled and said. “Finally! We could a died of thirst waitin’ for you.”

Sandy wanted to snap at the woman—and her husband who wore a baseball cap with the Buffalo Bills logo. Instead she bit her lip.

“Sorry ma’am, I’m new and I’m just learning.”

“Well, next time we’re askin’ for Peggy. At least she can get the food out before midnight.”

The woman shifted her bulk on the chair. Sandy saw Peggy scurry across the room with yet another tray laden with food.

“Oh shit,” she snapped.  The woman looked startled.

“What did you say, miss?”

“She’s got my orders again!” Sandy said angrily, as her tray fell to the floor. It clattered. Everyone in the small dining room sat at attention.

“You witch, give me those!” Sandy shouted as she lunged toward Peggy.

“Help someone! She’s gone crazy!” Peggy screamed frantically.

Sandy grabbed at the tray Peggy held in front of her like a shield.  She yanked the tray toward her, and the plates started to slide toward the floor. Peggy righted it, and pulled hard in her direction. Sandy countered with a solid tug. The plates clattered and filets of fried fish the size of a baseball mitt became airborne. Both women watched, mouths agape, as the fish spiraled toward them. They ducked, sending the large tray clattering to the floor while cole slaw, macaroni salad, French fries, rye bread and butter rained down on the nearby tables.

The patrons screamed and covered their heads with their hands. A few of the women held up overstuffed purses like umbrellas.

Other diners sat with their forks frozen in mid air.

Tom emerged from the bar, his face scarlet. Sandy thought she saw a pulse throbbing on his temple.

“What the hell are you two doing? Pick up that mess. And serve these customers.” Tom’s voice was filled with rage.

No one breathed in the silent room.

Hours later, after the frenetic rhythm of the dining room calmed down, Tom cornered Sandy and Peggy in the service area of the bar. A few of the regulars were seated on high stools, drinking beers and badgering each other.

“Listen you two. The only reason I didn’t throw your sorry asses out of here earlier is because it’s hard to find help.

Peggy sneered. “You ever think of paying better?”

Tom glared. “Another night like this and you’re both out on the street. Think about it, ladies—there’s only one other job where you get take-home pay the day you work…is that what you want to do? Everyone can be replaced.” He strode away.

Peggy leaned forward and, with her face inches from Sandy’s growled, “I can make your life pretty miserable.  And if you think tonight was bad …well, I’ve been known to send other waitresses home crying for their mommies.”

Sandy wondered if working at Murphy’s would be worth the hand-to-hand combat in the war Peggy had just declared. Fingering the tips she had earned that night in her pocket, she imagined the money piling up, paying for new clothes, and maybe a car.  She raised her water bottle as if as if proposing a toast.

“Don’t worry, Peggy. I’ll be back and ready for combat tomorrow. Cheers!”

 

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At the Dentist

dentist

 

I had extensive dental work done recently.

My dentist is a very kind, gentle woman who makes the experience as easy as possible. So instead of being tense and alert, worrying about whether or not something would hurt, I was able to let my mind wander.

While I was ensconced in the dental chair, unable to go anywhere while two people worked on my mouth, I started to think about several things.

I wondered about the first people and what they thought happened when a child was born. Were they surprised? Did they know what it was? Did they nurture the child?

After ruminating about this for a while, I began to think about the Universe and the existence of God. I concluded that, for me at least, that there must be a God.

Then I thought about death and the afterlife.  I wondered what death was like—do we just go to sleep and lose consciousness?  Are we reunited with those we loved in life who went before us? Is there really a place or state of being called heaven?

Finally, I decided that it didn’t matter because if there is a heaven, living a moral life would certainly merit that reward. And if there isn’t an afterlife, well, we lose nothing by being moral.

I found it amusing that I used to wonder how much longer the procedure would take, and if and when it was going to hurt…

Ah, the marvels of modern and pain free dentistry!

 

Image source myteeth.co.za

 

 

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My Love Affair

 

I have had a love affair with the beach since –well, my earliest memory.

The sound of the surf as it rolls onto the shore is a comfort to me. The sand between my toes and the fresh, salt air are sensory delights.

To me, the beach is an ever-changing scene: boats drift or seem to fly by, with sails that can invoke the colors of the rainbow or resemble white sheets  drying in the breeze. Some bob out far enough that I wonder what they are doing—fishing, or are they out for a cool day on the water? The cruise ships appear to be stationary out in the deep sea, especially at night when their festive lights outline them.

Seashells are the souvenirs of a beach visit. I enjoy walking along the shoreline, stooped over, hunting for a uniquely colored shell or one that is a different shape. I take a few each time, so that I can remember that day at the beach.

When I was a kid, my family went for picnics to a favorite place called Miller’s Beach several times a week. My Dad would arrive home from a steaming hot day at the steel plant. Mom would literally wrap the dinner she had on the stove up in a blanket and we would head off to the freshening breezes of Lake Erie.

We could hardly wait to run to the sand and surf as soon as we arrived. Dinner outdoors was delicious—no matter what was served.

I especially loved to watch the sun go down over Lake Erie—sometimes the sunsets were the proverbial blaze of color. Other times, the sky would turn the color of liquid silver and the water would reflect that back, the orange setting sun a burst of light that made it all even more magical.

I still long for the beach…and feel that same child-like delight at my first glimpse of the ocean.

 

 

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