I ran into an old friend the other day. After a quick catch-up session, I realized how wonderful it is to see a friend you haven’t seen in a long time.

Old friends have a special place in our lives–or at least in mine. They share a history that newer friends don’t. They remember you when—for better or for worse.

Since my husband died, I cherish those who have memories of Dan— especially of his humor and gentle personality. Most of these friends remember how delighted he was  with Sparkle, our dog. In a way, they are a link to him now that he’s gone.

One of the best things about old friends is that you can often just pick up where you left off the last time you were together, even if it was months or years.

Sharing a history gives you a common ground to start from. Even if the first few minutes you spend together centers around asking about family and mutual friends, the familiarity is comforting.

And sometimes that’s all you can talk about. But that’s still okay. Because seeing that person is a reminder of the continuity of life and the connections we share.

When I was a teacher, there was a song I taught my Kindergarten students. It was actually a song I learned in Kindergarten.

“Make new friends, but keep the old/ One is silver and the other gold.”

Words to live by.